Shame Resiliency COURSE OUTLINE
Define shame. Define empathy. Distinguish between guilt, humiliation, and embarrassment.
Recognize shame and personal shame triggers. Distinguish shame versus guilt. Exercise with group of how shame fits with how we were raised, our experiences in school, employment, relationships, self talk, etc.
BIG WEBS & SMALL BOXES
Identify how gender impacts shame. Also how labels andstereotypes fuel shame. Identify common shame categories & speak which one has the greatest impact for us individually. Experiential exercise creating a collage of shameful media messages.
Work toward the process of resilience meaning the process of recognizing shame and moving through it in a positive/constructive way. Learn attributes of Empathy and practice empathy skills within the group. Recognize the need for self compassion (Kristin Neff).
Recognize difference between empathy and sympathy. Learnthe barriers to empathy. Empathy requires us to connect to an emotion, rather than anexperience. Learning our own emotions because we can't connect to another’s emotion if we cant identify that emotion within ourselves.
Learn to recognize physiologically how we experience shame. Teach mindfulness skills to recognize bodily responses to shame and other emotions. Identify how we react when our body feels shame. Gain insight into our shame thoughts, bodily experiences, and behaviors as a result of feeling shame.
Shame triggers & vulnerabilities. Participants will selectshame category which mostaffects them. Learn to identify our ideal identities (how we want to be perceived) and also identify our unwanted identities (how we do not want to be perceived). Explore the origin of these identities and what they mean to us. By gaining this insight, participants will be able to also identify their own personal strengths related to these identities.
UNDERSTAND OUR SHAME SCREENS
Understand why and when we use “shame screens”—strategies of disconnecting. Identify which screens we all use.
PRACTICE CRITICAL AWARENESS
Learn the skill of “reality checking” related to self and others. Gain the skill of demystifying experiences and placing experiences in the big picture. Learning to place your experiences in the context of how it fits within the big picture. Through the group dynamic learning you are not alone in this process.
Identify the individuals in your life who form their connection group. Also identify individuals and groups who add to or contribute to their shame experiences. Discuss how to foster increased empathy in their relationships. Helping others to understand their feelings.
Understanding our to share feelings and ask for needs to be met. Recognize the importance of vulnerability in combatting shame. Practicing vulnerability and empathy within group.
Authenticity is a daily goal and requires daily practice. Participants will be able to identify components of authenticity and practice!